It has been brought to my attention that at some point in recent years most young men decided to stop courting women the way they used to. You know with flowers, romantic dates and oh yeah, phone calls.

The 20-year old guy thinks its appropriate to text you his half naked photo rather than just ask how your day is going. He wants to split the bill at the dinner table but still expects you to go home with him that night. I’ve heard more 20-year old men say that if women want to be treated as equals they should be held to the same standards.

A girlfriend of mine recently shared with me her frustration over this new found sense of “equality” shared by some of the guys she’s been dating. When did it become acceptable to ask a woman out on a date and expect her to pay for half? My friend was called “old fashioned” by this man, of which its meaning I am confident he knows nothing about.

Is it old fashioned to want a man who courts you with respect and expects nothing in return? Is it old fashioned for a man to hold a door open for you? Since when did common courtesy and manners become old fashioned?

In many cultures it is considered an insult for a guest to pay for anything and in my humble opinion, when a man asks you out to dinner, you become his guest. Splitting the check can be completely cool once you have both discussed it and are comfortable that way, but it’s never okay to expect a woman to pay her half on a date, not if the two just met, and especially not if what he’s trying to do is show that he’s a man.

So I pose the question to you dear reader:

What does it really mean to be old fashioned??? Answer kindly!

XO

~M